Holidays Can be Great for You and Your Kids, Even after Your Divorce

Kid With His Mom

Winter is the festive season. The holidays are a time children anticipate all year. Generally, people get together during this season and spend quality time with family. These holidays however, can be difficult for children whose parents are divorced. For custody over the holidays, parents have to go through a long process. They can get sole custody for holidays when they are favored and awarded by the court with a larger percentage of custody.

You must be wondering how to get this larger percentage of custody. Well, your family attorney in Oklahoma City, OK can help you with the design of the agreement, but the courts make the final decision based on what’s the children’s best interest.

As a parent, you have to understand and accept the fact that after divorce, you will not be able to spend every holiday with your children. When you are mapping out the holiday custody plan, you should consider the below-mentioned points:

  • Decide the rituals, traditions and ceremonies which are most important to you.

  • Keep your children’s best interest as the priority.

  • Give importance to their preferences.

  • Prepare everything for the holidays.

To prepare for the holidays, parents can make a custody plan by consulting a family attorney in Oklahoma City, OK. Here are three common plans.

Even and Odd Year Plan

In this plan, both parents get to spend all of the holidays with their kids, but just not every year. You would alternate one year on, one year off. If one parent gets to spend all of the even years holidays with the kids, the other gets all of the holidays in the odd years.


Dedicated Holidays

The importance of holidays may differ from one parent to another. One may think Christmas is more important as it belongs to a tradition, the other may think celebrating Thanksgiving is more important to spend time with the kids.  Or the parent may want other holidays that are not religious ones. In this case, the parents can spend their dedicated holidays with the kids. If the choice of the parents conflicts with each other, the importance is considered when the court is deciding custody for that day. The other parent would get another holiday to compensate for that particular one.

Holiday Breaks

Generally, kids have three major holiday breaks throughout the year, winter break, spring break and summer break. Some parents prefer these extended breaks to spend time with their kids rather than specific holidays. The breaks are divided between the parents. One may get summer break and the other, winter break, so that they get an extended time with the kids. This can either be permanent or alternate and it depends on the parents’ preference.

When making a custody agreement, the parents mostly have control over it. The agreement is signed off by a court when the holiday custody is divided fairly. It is possible that both of the parents do not share equal rights with the child custody, therefore, they may have different timeshare custody percentages for the kids.

The custodial parent may have 70% of the custody and non-custodial parent may have the last 30%. The agreement is planned while having this percentage in mind. As a consequence, it becomes difficult for the non-custodial parent to spend more time with the kids. They can get the help of a family attorney in Oklahoma City, OK to make some arrangements.

You can come see the team at Handley Law Center; we deal with custody-related problems with proficiency. Contact us and get a solution for these legal arrangements and any others pertaining to divorce.

** Disclaimer: This blog article is not legal advice and does not create an attorney-client relationship.